| "It’s better to forgive
To give up the pain
That attacks the brain
And eats up your heart"
You can ask for forgiveness all year round!
Asking for forgiveness:
When we ask for forgiveness, we clean our bodies from sin, but is our heart also cured? And if it was hurt, and hurt badly, by a person close to us, how then can we forgive? How can we forgive and forget?
People who hurt others often and people who are easily hurt generally respond from their subconscious. That’s where there is a "warehouse" of all the emotions and memories, and that’s the source of the reactions that sometimes burst out uncontrollably and with lots of regrets afterwards. But after the words have come out, the damage has been done and we have to work hard in order to repair it.
How to Forgive?
Forgiveness is an important and possible step and its goal is to relieve the pain or injury. You can forgive and apologize at the same moment and you can also forgive hours, days or years later, or even never.
But it’s important to remember that the faster you forgive and forget, the faster you can get on with your life, without causing any mental damage.
It’s not a good idea to keep things bottled up. Ongoing rage robs us of lots of unnecessary energy, it’s exhausting and frustrating for us. Forgiveness releases the blockage in the body and opens the door to new possibilities.
Many people aren’t capable of giving up their dignity and "humiliating" themselves and asking for forgiveness. They see this as a weakness - as if they have lost something. On the contrary. We pay a heavy price for bottling up pain and anger, for our negative approach to various situations and for thinking that we are by no means sure how to forgive and how to ask for forgiveness.
We are afraid to express forgiveness, at school they don’t teach us how to ask for forgiveness, and even if we search for it, we don’t always find the right way. Oftentimes we think that forgiving people is a "gift" that we give them, but it’s actually a "gift" … that we give ourselves…
We can also ask for forgiveness from a person who has died. It’s never too late. We can express it through prayer, meditation and even write a letter and send it to the sea, without an address…
The very action and positive thought of forgiveness can be alleviating and relieving.
But remember, in order to learn how to forgive, we must start by forgiving ourselves. Then it will be easier to forgive others as well.
Don’t preoccupy yourself with pain, look to the future and create a more interesting and beautiful life.
We naturally tend to distance ourselves from a person who has hurt us. On the contrary. Help him help you. Give him another chance and thus you will be able to lead "a life that’s healthier, calmer, more tranquil and more beautiful!"
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