| Sex and desire From www.kabbalah.com
According to Kabbalah, desire is the core essence of a human being. Desire is the stuff from which we are made. Desire is what fuels the entire human experience: art, literature, music, scientific discovery, and political revolution. They all begin with the ignition of a desire and longing that yearns to be fulfilled. And there is no more profound, potent, or potentially spiritual conduit for the expression of our desire than sex.
This essential Kabbalistic truth is so important, it bears repeating:
There is no more profound, potent, or potentially spiritual conduit for the expression of our desire than sex.
SEX AS SPORT
Our culture is obsessed with Great Sex. Unfortunately, our society`s definition of sex has far more in common with sport than spirituality. We regard orgasms as if they were batting averages. We contemplate sexual conquests the same way we track the win-loss columns of our favorite sports teams.
One could fill an entire library with modern sex manuals that instruct us in the how-to of Great Sex. Knowledge and skills are important to lovemaking, of course. Just like we need a proficiency with words in order adequately to express our raw ideas, we need knowledge and skills in the bedroom to effectively express our raw passion.
But "how-to" manuals and clinical studies explore only one ingredient in the sexual recipe. Mastering the delicate, artful mechanics of sex is important, but it`s just that: mechanics.
It`s true that our bodies are complicated pieces of biological "machinery," and that we want them to "perform"; but where does that leave our souls?
A man might very will be adept in the art of sexual mechanics, and his wife may be able to match him move for move; but the seed of sexual pleasure is not purely physical, as most couples who`ve been together for some time can attest to.
What the bulk of pop gurus, slick magazines, sex therapists, and climax-counters leave out of the "how-to" equation is the ineffable human soul. Yet it`s that very soul that animates our bodies and propels our every action. It`s that soul energy that can give our lives meaning beyond "how-to" and "how many."
Whether we repress that energy, compartmentalize it as somehow "separate from sex," or recognize it and eventually cultivate it, it`s there. It pulsates and permeates our entire being as a profound desire to connect with someone... with something outside of ourselves.
According to the Kabbalist, eroticism and arousal begin in the mystical intersection of our heads, hearts and souls.
When we are willing to expose the totality of ourselves, and to focus on the emotional and spiritual aspects of our partners as well as their physical charms, then sex can be deeply intimate. When we become aware of the spiritual purpose and cosmic role that sex plays in the grand scheme of things, it becomes charged with discovery and spiritual energy.
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